New seeds

Your brain saves everything your senses feel throughout your entire life. Everything is stored inside and by the time your checking out it carries something like two gigabytes of information. However of the between two and twelve million things you sense everyday, depending on how active you are, your brain will only remember between five and nine of these things. This is how much access you have to your own brain. Knowing this, why would you trust your brain more than your instant senses. Even if we tone it down a lot you only access a millionth of everything you need to make a decision. This is why we have instinct, your instinct is always right. However it easily gets clouded by poor judgement due to your stored information.

These things manifest themselves all around you. The biggest one is your smell, but all senses work together. If you remember back to a certain moment in life where something smelled just awesome and you remember being amazingly happy. Next time you smell the same smell, even if you feel down and it's ten years later your brain will make you think your happy. The same principle goes for relationships both in love-life and friendship. If you get hurt by a person, a friend or a lover this feeling will stick and keep reminding you until this is changed. Yes, changes do happen. But not fast and not to the extreme. In the meantime you can't help spending your time and your brains thinking about those negative experiences in the relationship the worse it gets and most likely together you can never change to the better.

I've seen a lot of relationship go down this way. And the people I'm talking about never found happiness in their lives until they walked their separate ways and kept growing as humans in each their direction. Building a relationship on almost pure positive energy however is all I will ever accept as good enough for myself.

"It is a funny thing about life; if you refuse to accept anything but the best, you very often get it"
-W. Somerset Maugham-

So what makes us choose a path that doesn't benefit anyone? The only person you are really responsible for is yourself. Some of us are growing all the time and some of us stop early and die. Some of us are gardeners and some are plants. Some even manage to be all nuances at once. But a great gardener will always make sure that his or her garden looks the best. And will constantly tend to take away everything that doesn't fit in or stop the rest of the plants from growing.

Truth is that we as individuals rarely sees the whole picture and therefor make decisions based on what we already know. Problem is this is the past and plants don't grow backwards in any way. You never know how the plant is going to turn out until it's done growing. Say you have this one plant. One that keeps dying and there is no way to figure out how to fix it. Maybe it's just the climate. It might not be right, you can grow some pretty strange plants in weird places but if the plant keeps dying and you spend all your energy on this one plant the rest of your garden will suffer. And what makes a gardener but his garden?

Just an observation from one of the oldest trees in the garden,
Jack